STYLE CRUSH TUESDAY

Fashion blogging is really big in Africa now. some Fashionistas are making a proper living out of it - from styling celebrities in their country to selling products for stores and let's not forget the amazing features in Magazines and the recognition that comes with it. It amazing to see that one can make money from their passion, especially in Africa.

The other get thing about fashion bloggers is that you get to see the best of all Fashion worlds literally, the expression of self is indescribable.

Currently, my style crush has to be the beautiful and stylish Ada. Her outfits are so easy and comfortable and others sophisticated and daring yet so relatable - she dresses up and down with such ease. She throws pieces together effortlessly - she is definitely my STYLE CRUSH TUESDAY!

 

 

For more of her style, follow her on instagram @stylebyada or check out her website where i got all these lovely images of her >> http://www.noordinaryshe.com/

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POLITICS OF CHANGING MY LAST NAME

When I meet him, I will know him.

He will love me like Christ loved the church, he will carry me when I am weak, we will be each other’s relief on a long busy day. He will like trees. He will smell like…..men! he will smile so wide that he will draw anyone and everyone in. His teeth will be imperfectly perfect. He will tower over me but never make me feel like a subordinate. We will be equals, partners in this thing called life….

And when I say I do… I will be happy to be called Mrs xxxxxxx. I am not giving up my independence, I am not giving up my family name.. I am still a woman, I still have my ambitions and my goals and all the wonderful things I would like to achieve, I would like to believe. I am not giving up anything, as a matter of fact, i am gaining something – gaining a whole new family that I will love and care for, a whole new set of friends that have loved him all their life. I am gaining a whole New responsibility - one that I have to carry with dignity, wear it with honor.. almost like I must give a slight bow every time someone refers to me as Mrs xxxxxxxx. I am a winner!

And if changing my name to His makes us happy, I will. It’s not a hard and fast rule – its beautiful. I will not be less of myself, a Nakazweh / Sikazweh because my last name changed.. Oh dear me, I will be blessed to be called his Wife.

And when God blesses us with children, we will raise them the best way we can…and they will carry OUR last name.. and their kids will carry our name and the list will go on until the last of us.

So if you ask me again why I will change my last name, I will say it’s because I can!

...and I ask you, why the politics?

I hate candy!

I absolutely hate candy. Don't get me wrong, I eat it, but I hate it. Jelly totes have an even weirder taste yet they suck you in just after the first one. But something they forget to tell us about candy is the tooth decay!

This is kind of like a bad habit.  Sweet, instant gratification but the repercussions are fatal and mostly permanent..

However, this is really about how much I hate candy!

It makes me incredibly happy in the beginning and then I hate myself for what it feels like in my mouth.. but spitting it out is not an option so I brave it all, down the damn thing and finish the job with a bottle of water. That is how much I hate candy! :D

THRIFT DATE

A date with some of Lusaka's quirkiest fashionistas and bloggers meant adventure and fashion in the same sentence. 

We decided our second real date would be a visit to a thrift warehouse somewhere in our City... I mean, what better way to spend an afternoon with crazy fashion heads than to thrift together¿

It is nearly impossible  to get us all in one place at the same time because of our hectic and diverse schedules, but we did so well done to us :)

We will each blog about the outfits we thrifted and how we dressed up or down each piece.. this should be exciting..

Follow these awesome beauties and take a look at their thrift pieces from the date;

*missroxyboyd.blogspot.com

*misskundwe.wordpress.com 

*www.mafashio.co.zm

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@missroxyboyd

@mafashio_zambia

@misskundwe

@thehungrybard

@limposcarlet

@shahzadi_kahyi

Picture evidence of what we got up to that afternoon;

LETTER TO MY 16 YEAR OLD SELF

ON BOYS

At this age, I should warn you. If he tells you he loves you he most probably does not know what he means – or maybe he does. I can see a lot of relationships lasting that started at this age so I don’t know what to tell you, Uhm, stay away from them?!  Make lasting friendships if they feel right but do not be swayed by cheap talk. I really do not know what to tell you. I think you are doing pretty well.

The one thing though, do not let a Boy define your beauty.  You are GORGEOUS!

ON BULLIES

Bullies are cowards! They prey on who they think is weak because they themselves are weak, in fact the weakest. Pray for them because you will never know the struggle they have. And you, do not believe what they say about you. Like you have always done. Continue to be yourself. Your teachers will see your potential and elevate you!

You will know what I mean when You get to this age. They are either your friends now, or……… I don’t even know where they are. They simply don’t matter!

ON CAREER

To be honest with you, I would confuse you now if I tell you that you will follow in your Father’s footsteps and become an Insurance and Risk Management official.. and you will study Law, yes, law, at the insistence of your mother, (who by the way truly knows everything….like google) and guess what else, you will not only like to draw on paper, you will take it a higher and paint people’s faces. Yes, I know, this one is a shocker considering at this age, all you care about is being as good as your brother and rapping as well as Eminem (all tapes censored, I know). So do not worry too much I think, just study hard and put yourself at an advantage, ready for anything.

ON LOVE

Take your time, this may sound cliché to you but trust me on this, When you meet him, you will know. He will smell like Safari for men and you will enjoy his cooking, yes, he will be able to cook very well. And you will most probably live like hippies because deep down, that is what you are... but you are only 16, don't worry about those things. Eyes on the Prize!

ON FRIENDS

All the friends you made at this age, your inner circle is…….. guess what……………………………………………. STILL your inner circle. So love them right, protect them, eat with them, pray with and for them. You may all not be in the same town or time-zone but believe me when I say they have your back. They will call you on your birthday, they will call you and keep in touch every time something important happens in your life. Later, you will meet some more beautiful souls, nothing like you ever thought existed. You will love them, they will love you and help you and you will learn from them.. you will be super excited about these friendships. they will become your sisters. Good People Exist! 

ON GOD

Child! keep trusting in Him for He really does control everything. experience Him for yourself to have the full experience. i wish you well on that! PRAY!

ON FAMILY

……..LOVE THEM, LISTEN TO THEM, HUG THEM, KISS THEM and DANCE with your FATHER!!!! you will make mistakes, heck they will make mistakes but they truly are Heaven's gift to you - God's very image! so Treasure the moments and Love all the ups and downs because that is what makes you. I know this now, they want the best for you so embrace it and thank them. 

Lastly, I wish I could spend time coaching you on what to do right but the MISTAKES have made you so much better.. so enjoy this life and make the best of every moment!

PEACE

Once attained........ everything else feels like a none-entity. Peace is something known to man only when it lacks..

I have never known a peace such as this only after letting go of my burdens..

I often wonder why it takes so long to undress oneself for peace.. but I guess it takes a long time for the lessons that come along with the lack of peace to be fully appreciated.

I choose Peace!